Destination Wedding – Why Not?

Are you considering a destination wedding? Are you planning to ask friends and family to attend or participate in your destination wedding? Are you wondering whether it’s selfish to plan a destination wedding? If your answer to any of these questions is “yes,” read on!

If you are like most couples, your wedding is the ultimate celebration and start to your future life together. You expect it to be a ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ experience. For this reason, I hope you won’t settle for anything less than your ideal – including your ideal location.

Apart from the obvious lure of gorgeous destinations and the chance to travel to a locale where neither of you has been, you may have practical reasons for planning a destination wedding. First of all, it’s a Darwinian approach to paring the guest list! It may eliminate countless headaches concerning who to invite and who not to invite. Usually, only those who are especially close to a couple will travel a long distance for their wedding. But this is true even for those couples who marry in the country where the majority of their guests reside.

Guests who can’t afford the expense of traveling to a destination wedding often find other ways to participate in the big occasion. Some throw wedding showers and many attend pre and post wedding festivities. You can take special care to make sure those who can’t attend the wedding are involved in other ways. You can also throw an ‘after wedding’ party to celebrate with those who can’t make it to the wedding.

Brides and grooms some times pay for the travel and lodging expenses of those people they especially want in attendance. This might include members of your wedding party, parents, siblings and grandparents. If your wedding is small, and destination weddings often are – these travel and lodging expenses may not be much greater than the costs you would incur by having a large wedding in your hometown.

Some couples elope. In this case, a destination wedding makes complete sense. Eloping omits lengthy, expensive and often contentious wedding planning. It insures privacy and secrecy – if that’s what you want. Under these circumstances, a destination wedding is more likely to be a destination ceremony. Maybe the secrecy of elopement and the destination itself will provide you with the feeling of private celebration you desire. In this case guests aren’t wanted! You can have an ‘after party’ later – when you’re ready to announce your marriage.

There are few occasions in life as momentous as getting married, and there are few celebrations that hold as much meaning as weddings. No couple wants to look back on their wedding day with regret. If you are like most couples, your wedding is an event that you’ve anticipated for a long time. It is an occasion invested with all your hopes and dreams for the future.

Those who care about you will hopefully put their own needs and wishes on the back burner. True friends are those who support you even when it means they have to sacrifice something to make you happy. I choose to believe that those people who show up for destination weddings are true believers. They believe in romance, in marriage and in the union of the two people whose marriage they come to celebrate.

Copyright Johanna Nauraine, 2010

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Pros and Cons of Destination Weddings

Destination weddings are very popular, but not everyone is a fan. It is undeniably romantic to exchange your vows on a windswept beach or at a European castle, yet there are certain pitfalls to far-flung weddings as well. Before you book your wedding, check out the pros and cons of destination weddings.

Pro: They can be cost effective for the bride and groom. This actually depends on the type of destination wedding you have in mind. Getting married at an all-inclusive resort can be very affordable, because the resort will often throw in a lot of the wedding expenses for free when you book your honeymoon there (sometimes called a “weddingmoon”). If you have your heart set on getting married in a storybook setting in Ireland or France, on the other hand, the costs will likely be quite a bit more than a local wedding, especially when you factor in travel and lodging costs.

Con: Destination weddings will be extra expensive for everyone else. Jetting off to Tahiti is not cheap, so keep in mind the financial burden you will be imposing on your guests if you elect to have your wedding in a far-flung locale. Some people may be unwilling to miss your wedding, even if they can’t really afford the trip, while others may decide to decline the invitation because of the expense. Before committing to a destination wedding, think carefully about the people that you especially want to have with you, and ask yourself if they will realistically be able to attend your nuptials if they are farm from home. It would be a good idea to help out your wedding party by paying for their attire and bridesmaid jewelry if you expect them to pay for their own airfare and hotel rooms.

Pro: When you have your wedding in your dream honeymoon locale, you are already on your honeymoon as soon as the reception ends! That sure beats spending your first day as newlyweds in a crowded airport.

Con: Not only will you be on your honeymoon, but so will your family. Having your parents around at the same resort while you bask in that sexy newlywed glow – definitely not romantic! If your parents want to tack a vacation onto your destination wedding, encourage them to arrive several days before the wedding instead of sticking around for a few days afterward.

Pro: Many tropical resorts have their own in house wedding coordinators who will gladly handle the details for you long distance. You may not have to do much more than shop for the wedding gown and bridal jewelry, the bridesmaid dresses and jewelry, and the wedding rings. A lot of couples love how little they have to do to plan a resort destination wedding.

Con: If you are a Type A person, giving carte blanche to a stranger to plan your wedding might be simply unbearable. The whole point of a tropical resort wedding is to enjoy the laid-back beauty of the islands; if you can’t see yourself leaving the details to the local wedding planner, you would be better off planning your own wedding at home where you can oversee everything personally.

There is definitely a lot to consider when deciding where to get married. Most people who had destination weddings will say that they would not have wanted to do it any other way, but a far-flung wedding is certainly not for everyone. Take into account your own ideas of the perfect wedding, your family, and your finances when weighing the option of a destination wedding.

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